“Nice guys finish last”: so goes the well-worn mantra of the
Nice Guy™. The cry of the long-suffering male friend who lets girls cry on his
shoulder about their terrible ex only to watch them get with another macho
jerk, the phrase oozes with self pity, as well as resentment toward all the
women who don’t date these self-proclaimed nice guys.
And therein lies the
problem of the Nice Guy: If you think your friendship and kind actions have
earned you a romantic relationship, those actions weren’t so nice to begin
with. They were down payments on the relationship, or at least sex, that you
hoped to get from the lady to whom you were purportedly being nice. In return
for kindness and friendship, Nice Guys expect love and passion.
If the object
of their affection instead chooses another man, she may find that the Nice Guy
doesn’t take too kindly to being overlooked. Continue reading...
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